Monthly Archives: October 2012

More costume opinions!

Because I have so, so many feelings about what you should wear for Halloween, guys.

Right on the heels of my ACLU blog about what you should wear to Banned After Dark, today the Pitt News published my Do’s and Don’ts of Sexy Halloween Costumes. DO poke fun at fairy tale characters! DON’T be mind-bogglingly racist! DON’T be that person on the megabus who is really hatey at AnthroCon, in general, but especially if you’re wearing some kind of sexy animal costume for Halloween! And other pretty good life advice.


Banned After Dark! My first blog post for the ACLU

The first blog post I wrote for my internship at the ACLU of Pennsylvania has finally gone live! Check out my badass suggestions for banned-books-inspired costumes and if you are 21+ and in Pittsburgh, definitely check out Banned After Dark.

Or just read my blog. Spoiler Alert: Where’s Waldo counts as a banned book.

Banned After Dark, the ACLU’s darker, sexier, 21-and-over banned books celebration, is being held at Brillobox again, at 8 p.m. on Tuesday, October 30th. Because our annual night of revelry and reading falls on Mischief Night this year, we’re making it a costume party!

In addition to bringing your favorite banned book to shock us at the microphone that evening, you’re invited (but not required) to dress up as your favorite character! To get your creative juices flowing, we’ve provided some examples below.

my Survival Guide to Horrible Things

This column is dedicated, with great sadness, to a close friend of mine who lost her brother in between when I wrote it and when I published it.

Concept lovingly stolen from Sady Doyle’s “Ruining Your Life” post over at Rookie, which I quoted.

My column from today has been shared around a lot (I mean… by my friends. but it’s not like they share everything I write) which I really appreciate, even as I am busy non-appreciating the fact that I have no idea whether the new Pitt News site is going to have any kind of record of the things I wrote that were published on the old site, so a lot of my past year’s work may or may not be Lost Forever. Which would be a bummer. But either way, here is today’s look at What I’ve Been Doing With My Life:

Captain Awkward, my favorite advice blogger, stresses the importance of having people on Team You. Team You should almost always include a therapist, but it’s equally important to have a strong network of friends. These are the people you can call up when you’re freaking out and say, “Can you get coffee with me in five minutes?” They won’t judge you for being negative or complain that all you talk about is the horrible thing, because they understand that you’re going through a temporary crisis and that you need support.

If you don’t have those friends, find another way to build a strong Team You. If you haven’t made friends like that at college yet, don’t be shy about calling your high school friends. Start group therapy. For most horrible things, there are online forums for people to support each other — find one that suits your needs, whether it’s a website tailored specifically toward your problem or a special forum on a site such as Reddit. The people who form your online support network can become lasting friends, or they can be a crutch to get through the hardest part until you have more allies in meatspace. The important thing is having a network of people who can listen to you talk about your arrest without offering unsolicited amateur legal advice, or tell you that it’s okay to be angry at your ex, but for the love of God, do not send them that Facebook message to that ex you’ve drafted.

It is preferable to have your parents on Team You, but sometimes they are not.

“Survival Guide to Horrible Things,” October 2012